Getting What You Want - Part 1

Happy November!

This month I’m taking you through thought exercises surrounding Goals and Commitments to help you gain clarity about what’s going on in your life. Stay tuned each week as I build on each concept and take it to the next level.

Today we are starting with Goals.

A Goal is an intention that has an end result.

Here are some examples:

"I want to start doing yoga."

"I want to try life coaching."

"I want to lose some excess weight."

"I want to feel better about my___________."  (Fill in the blank: self, life, relationship, work, etc.)

There are always things in your life that you either want to attain, start doing or stop doing. Think back to the New Year’s resolutions you made when the year was new and fresh. Ahhh there’s nothing like a new beginning! Some of those goals may not fit into your life anymore, but maybe you’re thinking of a few that you'd still include on your list for next year! Or maybe you crushed your NY resolutions and you’re further ahead than you were 309 days ago. Good job!

For the next week think about the goals you would like to achieve in your life or that are on your Bucket List. Write them down. Every single one, even if they seem impossible, but make you feel super excited. We will look at them again next week.

If you struggle coming up with goals it’s ok. Take a few minutes to sit, breathe and get calm. Think about the last time you were having a fun time. A time when you felt free and were laughing or just really feeling alive. Sit in those carefree feelings for a few minutes. Now try to write out your goals again. If you still have trouble repeat this visualization process until you come up with a couple goals you feel good about. 

 

Your Superpower

Think about one of your favorite songs from high school.

Sing some of the lyrics in your head or out loud. 

Really let yourself think about this song for about 60 seconds.

What memories come back when you think about this song? Who are you thinking of? What situation are you thinking of? What is the feeling in your body as you think of this song and the memories attached to it? Are you happy? Sad? Angry? Longing for when things were more simple? Glad that period of your life is over? Really dwell on the experience of remembering this song. 

One song from your past has the ability to completely take you into another world. Stories from your past cause you to feel a certain way just by recalling them even though they aren't actually happening anymore.

This experience is happening to you every day in your present situation as well, no song required. You have the power to conjure up certain feelings from stories you tell about your situation and get triggered by things that remind you of the past. You have so much power with your thoughts to create the reality of how you feel. This superpower can be used to move you forward, set you back or paralyze you from doing anything. 

When people come to me for coaching it's because they want to feel better in some area of their life. Things aren't working out and soon enough they feel even worse thinking about all the pain of their stories.  By the end of a session though, through the work that I do with them, these same people who feel like there might not be hope suddenly feel better. Life coaching is not magic but the process can feel pretty magical when we start to break through all the things no longer serving you. From that new creative place, you can move forward into better thoughts, stories and goals. If you're curious about this process please visit my website under Coaching Programs for options!