Last week I talked about goals and brought you through an exercise to help you think about what you want in your life. This week, I'm focusing on Commitments and how they differ from Goals. Remember, Goals are intentions that have an end result.
A Commitment is the dedication to the process of getting to an end result.
A Commitment is a decision that takes a goal to the next level. It can make or break your goals ever seeing the light of day. A Commitment includes a strong “why” and a plan.
Here are some examples:
"I practice yoga 3 times per week on Monday, Wednesday and Friday because my mental and physical health are important to me."
"I make my kids lunch everyday because I care about their nutrition and health."
"For the next 30 days I am going to reduce my portions and exercise 30 minutes a day to kick off losing that last 10 lbs."
“I fully fund my retirement account every year so I have peace of mind about my future.”
In talking about commitments I want to also touch on obligations. Obligations are acts or courses of action to which you are morally or legally bound. In my opinion, that is a serious definition, however, we make many things feel like obligations because we try to control how someone thinks about us. Usually the tune sounds something like, “I feel obligated to _________ because they did it for me that one time/I don't want them to be mad at me ”. It is not a commitment anymore if feelings of resentment or dread show up. Regularly reflecting on and questioning your “why” for your commitments keeps you out of auto-pilot and in conscious control of your life.
For the next week think about the things you are committed to in your life. These are the tasks or people that never get pushed onto the next To Do list. Make a list of things you are committed to and next to them write WHY they are so important to you. Also, make a note if any particular item feels like an obligation more often than not. Notice how much time each day is spent on your commitments and if there is an imbalance between time you spend on others and time for yourself.
Have a great insightful week!